Should I Get a Divorce?

Q: What does the "Should I Get a Divorce?" quiz measure?

This free self-assessment quiz helps you reflect on an honest look at where your marriage really stands. It includes 10 questions and takes about 4 minutes. Results are for self-reflection, not clinical diagnosis.

Q: Is the "Should I Get a Divorce?" quiz free?

Yes. This quiz is completely free, anonymous, and requires no signup. Your answers are processed in your browser and never stored or shared.

Q: What does "Your Marriage Has a Strong Foundation" mean?

Your relationship has real warmth and connection, even on the hard days. What I notice in your answers is real connection, even through the rough patches. Every marriage goes through seasons where things feel harder. The fact that you came here looking for clarity shows yo

Q: What does "Your Marriage Is at a Crossroads" mean?

Something is genuinely off, and you're not imagining it. What's coming through in your answers is real strain, and I want you to know your feelings make sense. You're not making this up, and you're not overreacting. Something is off, and your body and mind

Q: What does "You May Be Ready to Move On" mean?

Part of you has already left this marriage, and you feel it in your body. I want to be straight with you: your answers point to deep exhaustion and disconnection. Something inside you has already started to let go. That doesn't automatically mean divorce is the answer, but

Question 1

When your partner walks through the door, what do you notice happening inside you?

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My stomach tightens. I hold my breath until I can read their mood. It's been like this for a while.

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Honestly, not much. I barely register it anymore. Like a roommate coming home.

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It depends on the day and what happened between us recently.

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Something softens. I feel glad they're back.

Question 2

Right now, when you picture your life five years from now, is your partner in that picture?

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No. I've already mentally designed a life without them. I think about it constantly.

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The picture is blurry. I can't see them clearly in it, and that scares me.

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They're there, but sometimes I wonder if they should be.

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Yes. I can't imagine building the future without them.

Question 3

When a disagreement starts, what do you notice yourself doing?

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I shut down completely or we end up screaming. There's no in-between anymore.

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I avoid it. I swallow what I want to say because it never leads anywhere good.

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It gets messy, but we usually find our way back to each other eventually.

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We can disagree without it turning into something bigger than it needs to be.

Question 4

Something great happens to you today. Who do you want to call first?

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Literally anyone else. My partner would find a way to make it about them or minimize it.

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My friend, my sibling, my mom. Not my partner, and I try not to think about why.

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It varies. Sometimes them, sometimes someone else.

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Them. They'd be genuinely happy for me, and sharing it would make it better.

Question 5

How often do you feel alone even though you're technically in a relationship?

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Most days. I feel lonelier married than I ever did single. That realization keeps hitting me.

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A few times a week. There's this gap between us that I can't quite name.

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Every now and then, usually when we've been busy and haven't connected.

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Rarely. Even in quiet moments, I feel like we're in it together.

Question 6

Notice what comes up when I ask this: have you mentally left this marriage already?

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Yes. I'm going through the motions. I stay for the kids, the finances, the fear of what comes next.

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I'm drifting there. Each day I care a little less, and that numbness worries me.

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I have moments where I check out, but something keeps pulling me back.

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No. I'm frustrated sometimes, but I'm still here, still trying.

Question 7

If your partner suggested therapy tomorrow, what would your honest reaction be?

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I'd think: what's the point? We're past that. I've already grieved this in my head.

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I'd go, but a part of me would be sitting there thinking it's too late.

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I'd feel nervous but willing. Maybe someone else can help us see what we can't.

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I'd feel hopeful. I want us to work, and I'd welcome the help.

Question 8

When you're with your partner, do you feel like you can be who you actually are?

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I've lost track of who I actually am. I've been performing this version of myself for so long.

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I hold back a lot. I edit my thoughts, my feelings, my reactions. It's exhausting.

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Mostly yes, though there are things I keep to myself to avoid conflict.

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Yes. They know the real me, the messy parts included, and I feel accepted.

Question 9

What do you notice in your body when you think about physical closeness with your partner?

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I tense up. I find myself pulling away, making excuses, feeling nothing or feeling repulsed.

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I go along with it, but I'm not really there. My body is present, my mind is somewhere else.

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It's not what it used to be, but there are moments where the connection is still real.

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I still feel drawn to them. The physical connection is still alive between us.

Question 10

Sit with this one for a moment. Deep down, do you believe this marriage can be saved?

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No. And I think I've known that for a while. Saying it out loud is the hard part.

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I have serious doubts. Something fundamental feels broken, not just bent.

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Maybe. If both of us were willing to do the work, I think there's something worth saving.

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Yes. We're struggling, but the foundation is still there. I believe in us.